Imperfect Love

Alternate Title: I Hate My Job

Can you love your life while looking forward to time away from her? No, not perfectly. If you look forward to time spent away from your wife, you are literally hating your wife, by our definition of love. So while you probably don’t hate her, your thoughts tell a different story.

What does looking forward to retirement say about your job? If you look forward to retirement, like most of us do, what does that say about you? You are looking forward to realities that do not include your job, therefore you hate your job in some capacity. You can’t truly love your job until you can see all future realities including it.

What if I look forward to when I put my kid to bed? If you look forward to putting your kids to bed, what are you saying about them. They aren’t tired yet. You put them down because you are excited about the freedom and time away from them. Be careful though, because this love of absence is the definition of hate.

So how do we love better? We stop imagining scenarios that involve us being apart from the people or things that we claim to love.

God loves us now and forever. He’s not trying to retire, or put us down, or just get some time to fish with his buddies. He is with us, no matter what, and that is what perfect love is.

Dyslexia and ADHD

So if you’ve bought in to my only real assumption, which I’ve proven to myself and done my best to prove to you, you accept the fact that vision is in the mind, and we can reprogram the mind to operate completely differently.

If we can retrain our minds to process the visual signals properly, so we can see, what does that mean about dyslexia? Can we retrain their minds to learn properly? I think the answer is yes. I’m not saying that there is not a tangible thing that makes or made them this way, but what I’m saying is, I think it’s curable. And the fact that I can see proves that.

I plan on working with some dyslexic students with no background and seeing if I can help them at all. My thought is that their suffering is similar to mine, and I think the solution may be simple.

Some beginning hypotheses:

The material that reading bores them. As we’ve talked about before [if not we should have], boredom is another quality that causes eye and mind strain. I’d guess that if reading is boring or the topic that they’re reading about is boring then they won’t be able to focus on it.

The act of reading or writing stresses them out. They’ve had little or no success reading or writing in the past, so they associate it with a negative past experience. Maybe they got a bad grade or embarrassed, and started to draw a mental block, and basically lock up at the thought of their native language.

But that can’t possibly be the whole story.

Here’s a fun correlation: my mom said that most of the kids at the dyslexia school where she teaches have ADHD. So I started looking into what medicines we give kids with ADHD. Here’s what I found. 

Since you probably aren’t going to click that, read this:

Drug Name
Generic
Duration
Dextroamphetamine Sulf-Saccharate
4-6 hours
Dextroamphetamine Sulfate
4-6 hours
Dexmethylphenidate HCL
4-6 hours
Methylphenidate HCL
3-4 hours
Methylphenidate HCL
3-4 hours

Intermediate and Long-Acting Stimulants

Side effects of these medications include loss of appetite, weight loss, sleep problems, irritability, and tics. Long-acting medicines may have greater effects on appetite and sleep.The FDA has issued a warning about the risk of drug abuse with amphetamine stimulants. FDA safety advisors are also concerned about the possibility that all amphetamine and methylphenidate stimulants used for ADHD may increase the risk of heart and psychiatric problems.

In short, we have a litany of different drugs we can give you to screw up your kids mind before they even have a chance. So we are trapping kids in a new way to the same path of destruction, depression, and crazy.

So here’s what I’m saying, what if our treatment for ADHD alters the minds of our kids just enough to make it hard for them to learn. Call it what you want. But give it some thought. Your kid’s well being depends on it.